Not Becoming My Mother

Not Becoming My Mother

And Other Things She Taught Me Along the Way

Book - 2009
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Chronicles the mother-daughter relationship of culinary author Ruth Reichl, now editor-in-chief of Gourmet magazine, and her late mother, Miriam. Miriam Brudno, who bowed to societal and familial pressure to become a wife and a mother over pursuing a fulfilling career, cheered her daughter on and pointed out that Ruth had an obligation, both to herself and to her mother, to use her life well.
Publisher: New York : Penguin Press, 2009
ISBN: 9781594202162
Characteristics: 112 p. ; 19 cm


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Oct 13, 2015

The author had a very complicated history with her mother, a woman whose erratic behavior was often not funny anymore, but verging on terrifying. After her mother's death the author found a box of letters and scraps of paper with her mother's handwriting on them and proceeded to attempt a better understanding of the woman she'd tried so hard to distance herself from. My only complaint is that I wish the book was a little more detailed, a little longer, with more anecdotes. But otherwise, a very interesting read and something many of us, who have strived to understand a parent after their death, will find sympathetic reading.

Jul 25, 2014

I thought this book was a beautiful gift this mother gave to her daughter. I read this book in two (short) sittings, and then shared it with my friend, who did the same!

Jul 11, 2010

A memoir of her mother written after reading her mother's diaries and letters years following her death. Reichl has a much deeper understanding of her mother's generation, her struggles as an educated ambitious woman whom everyone said should be fulfilled as a wife and mother.

After regaling us in her funny 'Tender at the Bone' about her mother who could not cook and had little sense about food, Reichl's take here has a depth of understanding for her mother quite different.


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